The importance of loving oneself in three pieces of jewish literature

A later Musar movement leader, the 20th-century rabbi Eliyahu Eliezer Dessler is frequently quoted as defining love from the Jewish point-of-view as "giving without expecting to take" Kuntres ha-Chesed, Heb.

But the love of a wife, as the love of one's homeland, is taken for granted as natural and needing no explicit command.

The importance of loving oneself in three pieces of jewish literature

Take a couple of deep breaths and focus on releasing the belief that you can never love yourself and therefore never fully enjoy life or love others. Charles Darwin once observed that men scan with far more scrupulous care the character and pedigree of their horses when they breed them than they do their potential marriage partners. The "love" for Rebecca was a replacement "love" for the vanished "love" of his mother. The lady no sooner perceived it, than she ordered him to be carried to her father's house, and to be put into a bed she prepared for just that purpose. Israel] of its sin. The Midrash tells the following story: "A certain Israelite of Sidon, having been married more than ten years without being blessed with children, determined to be divorced from his wife. It says that yichud may be accomplished even if bride and groom were not alone, so long as they were together. People who love themselves never worry or become agitated because they have managed to reach a perfect state. Indeed, love of God is voluntary surrender of life and all one has for God's honor Sifre, Deut. It is this unequaled love, braving suffering and martyrdom, which established the unique relation between God and Israel, so that "none of the nations can quench this love" Cant. This is the whole of the Law, the rest is only commentary" Shab. The Rabbis, in the Talmudic discussion of the "Rebellious Son" ben sorer umoreh rule that if parents do not at least have the facility to communicate openly, their child may not be punished as a delinquent.

Love is divine bliss, and hence love of God is the source of eternal bliss for mortal man. The sickness and the sadness and the "magic" distort the vision and transport the emotions.

Love is not usually altogether blind—but it is nearsighted, able to see only what is agreeable to the five senses, not necessarily to common sense. Accordingly, they went home and prepared a sumptuous party to which they invited their friends.

love your neighbor as yourself hebrew translation

She thinks she hears his voice, but he is elsewhere. Lastly and most importantly, yichud means that marriage must provide latitude for relationship modalities other than love.

Talmud quotes about love

We have a lot of understanding and compassion and can embrace others. Leone Ebreo, son of 15th-century biblical commentator Isaac Abrabanel, says, "It is obvious that the love of husband and wife is pleasant, but it must be bound up with good too; which is the reason why a reciprocal love does survive the enjoyment of its delights, and, not only persists, but grows continually, through its participation in the good. It is often a substitute word for "passion," as in Amnon's "I love Tamar" II Samuel , which culminates in sexual assault and the transformation of his love into hate. Like parting, it is sweet sorrow. Take a couple of deep breaths and focus on releasing the belief that you can never love yourself and therefore never fully enjoy life or love others. It is this unequaled love, braving suffering and martyrdom, which established the unique relation between God and Israel, so that "none of the nations can quench this love" Cant. This does not imply that Jews believe grace and beauty are evil. He finds Rachel and is struck by her beauty—"he kissed Rachel and wept aloud. Of course, we do not believe that bread actually has feelings, but this practice helps to instill an enormous sensitivity to others. There is love to be found in sacrificing oneself because of an understanding that someone else's life could be more valuable to the world or to God. The first is the love that flows from God to human beings; the second is the love from human beings to God; the third is the love we have for ourselves; and the last is the love human beings have for one another. Hence the inherent paradox: romantic love desires intimacy, but at the very moment of intimacy, love evaporates. The couple is not permitted yichud before marriage, precisely because its very privacy may result in immorality. In fact, without realizing it, we are suggesting that to love yourself is the second greatest commandment, for we are saying it comes before the commandment to love others.

For that to happen romance cannot play an exclusive role in mate selection; other components must enter into the decision-making process. So too the beloved no longer needs the acknowledgment of the lover which she longed for before she admitted her love.

Tell yourself that you are proud to have worked through adversity. The theme of unity that is so prominent in Jewish mysticism and theology also underlies the structure of the Jewish family.

It knew of love and sang of love, but not of the "pure love" that is never consummated—there is no "Romeo and Juliet" in Jewish literature.

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